2014 has been my toughest year ever. Nothing compares to it. Not my divorce, not raising my children on my own, not dealing with my Aunt’s Alzheimers, not losing a ton of money, not losing friendships, not losing my dad to unexpected illness…..nothing I can think of compares to the past 6 months.
In January, I dealt with an unexplained issue with my youngest son. A child who left home at 19 and seemed to be doing very well until a series of events took him over the edge. This experience has taught me a lot about family and what they ‘think” is correct and how little they truly listen to the voice of a child. It is the reason for my previous post about our children not being our own. I’ve learned that many people have opinions about how you should raise your child, yet few are around when you are struggling to help them. People like to watch and point fingers…..yet help remains in the distance….far…far away. Maybe things they don’t understand are too painful for them to deal with. Needless to say Gerald Willhite….you are my HERO. I’m not going into detail here because I prefer my son blog about this and I’m still very private and think he should share in his own way. Just trust me when I say, no parent wants to be in the situation we experienced and are till working through. I am grateful to the prayers and support of the few who really cared.
February 9th 2014 this happens http://losangeles.cbslocal.com/2014/02/09/6-killed-2-injured-in-wrong-way-crash-on-60-freeway/. My son loses his best friend and the driver, so they say, is her sister. They are both his best friends since middle school. You can’t imagine in your wildest dreams getting a call like this. It’s tough emotionally because you care for this young woman because you know her and you are in pain for the innocent people affected by the crash. Your emotions spin out of control. How do you justify your love for her when other people are dead. How do you watch and listen to the horrible comments about a young woman who made a terrible mistake. You feel guilty in this situation talking about what a really sweet girl she is…..but she is. You mourn for everyone because they deserve our compassion. My heart aches for all the families and my son who lost his very best friend. Maya was Barbie to his Ken.
I’m not even good at this. I don’t know how to articulate the emotional crap that I’ve dealt with and continue to deal with today. I’m use to acting like everything is OK when it hasn’t been. Yet, I’ve carried on with my business like everything is OK because people are depending on me. It’s the main reason I get so annoyed at people complaining about he smallest of things. You make more money than you’ve ever made in your life and all you can do is complain about why you’re stuck one month not making more. I don’t understand. I don’t want to understand the short vision and selfishness of other people. I don’t get it. I hope I never get it.
It’s not that I’m afraid to “speak up” It’s that I choose to use my words wisely and silence is often mistaken for apathy. In reality, I’m praying…..praying for peace, understanding, patience, solutions and grace. Grace.. I pray for that more than anything.
This is not written perfectly, I have not given a ton of specifics because it would take up more than most would read. Just know….this too shall pass. It just isn’t always on your time, it’s when God says it’s time. I respect and honor that because he gave me GRACE.
“Your children are not your children.
They are sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you.
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For thir souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the make upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness.
For even as He loves the arrow that flies, so He also loves the bow that is stable.”
― Khalil Gibran
Whenever I think my small problems are bigger than they really are, I look around and I can always find someone who has it worse than I do. The loss of a child, an incurable disease like cancer, homeless, crippled or broke. So many accidents and disasters in the world that we should really take time to be thankful and grateful for the minor problems we face. So I’m really sorry if I offend anyone because I can’t tolerate whining, crying, blaming and complaining over things that are not life threatening. If it’s really that serious to you…..then do something about it. I hate EXCUSES with a passion coming from anyone even my own kids. We are so blessed to live in this country and our worst of days is nothing compared to some other countries. If you don’t like the government, run for office. If you don’t like the public schools, open up a private/charter school. If you don’t like where you live or your job, move or get another trade. Stop saying in one breath how “I can do all things through Christ” and then you do nothing. If you really believe that then prove it.
I am grateful for my good days and my bad. The fact that we all have choices and if you want to keep it that way then STOP….THINK ABOUT IT and DO BETTER TO GET BETTER. AMEN
Now that you’ve made the decision to join a network marketing company, there are a few things you should do. The Network Marketing industry can be a great experience as long as you are prepared for what lies ahead.
The first thing you should do is ask yourself what your level of committment will be. It will not be the same for everyone. You’re looking to do something different and perhaps to make some extra money, but that will come only after you take the right steps to success. Take out a calendar and note what your day currently looks like. Do you have a 9-5 job, are you a full time student or are you unemployed. We all have the same 24 hours but they are spent differently by each of us doing different things. It is important that you put a pen and paper to the hours of your life. For the next month, it would be a great idea to see how you spend your day. Even with modern technology, I still prefer to use a written calendar to see exactly what I’m doing. My “At A Glance” calender allows me to write down my day in 15min increments. I write down everything in that book. It’s like keeping track of your money. We all balance our checkbooks…right? It’s the same thing with my time. It will get away from you if you don’t keep track of it. When you get people who tell you they don’t have time to do this business, you can give them this daily task to see how they are spending their time. Most people have no idea where the hours of the day go. For example, “The Principle of Time” can show whether you are actually making the amount of money that you say your time is worth. So if you say that your time is worth $100 an hour, then prove it. Show in writing that each hour you are doing something that values your time at $100 an hour.
We can talk about it or be about it. The reality is most people have no idea how they spend their time or the value of that time. So today, make the decision to take control of your life and time. This task if done correctly will guide you toward the success you are looking for in Network Marketing.
Every day is a new opportunity to grow and make a change for the better. Or if you choose to stay stuck…you can remain EXACTLY the same. Nothing like having choices
I have a question that SHOULD make you think. Why do people pay for car insurance every month, get nothing out of it unless they have an accident but don’t complain about that. Why do people pay for life insurance every month so that it can benefit someone else after YOU die. YET…we show you how you can pay $100 to run your own home based business, get tax write offs, reduce your liability, save money…manage money and maybe even make some money….BUT you don’t get that? Not just in WakeUpNow but in ANY home based business that can give you value…..Why is that people….Put a pen and paper to it and explain your logic PLEASE!!!
I am often asked by friends and family why I enjoy watching shows like The Peoples Court, Dr. Phil and Iyanla Fix My Life. My response it that I believe there is something of value to learn from these shows. I think most of society is in pain, even though many like to pretend they are OK and that everything is going great in their lives, I think it’s a lie. Even though many of our friends may have the education, nice cars, fancy homes and high paying jobs…you can tell something is missing. Many are in dysfunctional relationships. Maybe they don’t think they are but if each of us are honest with ourselves…we could do better. However, you can only do better when you know better. That is why I love these shows.
You notice my list did not include any of the Housewives of…or the Basketball Wives, Ex Wives or Mob Wives. Although entertaining at times, I doubt anyone is having an awakening or growing spiritually from watching those shows. Even a cast member from Basketball Wives, Evelyn Lozada, has been a guest on Iyanla Fix My Life because valuable work is being done by Iyanla. She’s not going to get help being a better person on her show but Iyanla will definately require you to do the work and to “call a thing a thing.” I think Evelyn has grown a lot from what I can see. We all can stand to have some therapy in whatever form we can get it.
Over the years during my good and bad times, shows like Dr. Phil have caused me to put a mirror in front of my own face. One of the most important things we can do is self evaluation, but it must be honest. Many people are not honest when it comes to self. We can see what is wrong in everyone else except ourselves. I watch these shows because I think it’s important to be open to new information It’s important to look at life not just through our own lense, which is often blurred, but through the lense of those who have made a profession out of helping others. If we were our own judge and jury, would we really convict ourselves or be honest about the punishment we deserve? Of course not, but we are quick to judge others and give our version of correct and fair judgement. Although many go to church and think it’s righteous that God forgives our sins over and over again, we excpect others to be perfect and flawless. WWJD.
I continue to watch these shows for the same reasons that we bathe and brush our teeth daily, things get real funky when we don’t. It is something that I think deserves our attention daily. I don’t care if you went to therapy once or twice in your life, odds are you’re getting funky and could use a refresher course. We don’t have to agree 100% with these people who make a living helping others. You may criticize them and think it’s all for TV. The reality is they are just like the rest of us except they have decided to put the work in to attempt to give us something to think about. We should think about our actions on a daily basis and be open to hearing “another way” from those who have spent years focused and devoted to their craft. We’re all doing the best we can, but are we really doing the best if we fail to grow and continue learning how we can be better people. It’s often said that “I’m only human” How true that is but let’s stop using it as a crutch and do better because we want to be better.
I learn a lot from shows like The Peoples Court, Dr. Phil and Iyanla Fix My Life. There are some great shows on that offer an escape, but you can run but you can’t hide especially from yourself.
College is a great place to get educated and to expand your brain. With that being said, it should not be the end of your thirst for knowledge. We should remain curious and on the road to discovery. Many majors equip students to qualify for jobs, but others do not. I think if you can afford it, then by all means everyone should take the opportunity to experience college.
Unfortunately, many people stop educating themselves after they get their degree. It could be after obtaining their high school or college diploma that many people feel like they are finished and have learned all there is. This could not be farthest from the truth. Your journey to education has just begun. The difference in what you will learn for the rest of your life is really up to you because you are not being forced to go like we were in our youth. You’re not obligated like many feel they are because you have to pay student loans for college. So now any additional education you get is up to you and is self motivated.
It’s amazing to me how many grown people make statements like “I’ve never heard of that” or “That sounds to good to be true” I think that is a ridiculous statement. If you’ve been in school especially here in the United States and then you went to college here in the United States. Then you got a job right out of college and work 40-50 hours a week and maybe get two weeks vacation and still vacation in the United States. Then isn’t it possible that there are lots of things that you’ve never heard of or that might sound too good to be true to you. I mean, that is a fairly realistic portrait of most people’s life…..right? Unless watching what happens in the rest of the world is given to us accurately and honestly on the local news stations, then I might be mistaken.
Education is great for opening your brain, but you might need to put more information and experiences in it before you act as though you’ve seen it all because clearly if we take some personal inventory…..most of us have not.
I encourage you to keep educating yourself with knowledge especially about things you know little to nothing about. That’s the kind of education that could really open up the possibilites for you.
Wouldn’t it be great if all conversations came with this DISCLAIMER: What I am about to say is based on my opinion only. This is not based on facts. I will mererly speculate about what I THINK is true. I have no basis for what I think or say I just like hearing myself talk. It is your fault if you actually believe anything I say. I cannot and will not be held responsible for not checking my sources before I open my big mouth. You have been warned.